Do you remember that day when your child was home alone for a few hours? When you got back home, you realized that your child had messed up the entire house and not completed any task/activity that was assigned to him.

No doubt, this would have made you angry, upset, and disappointed. You would have thought of yelling at your child and taking action on his misbehavior.

Here’s a quick question for you – What would you have achieved by overreacting since the damage is already done? Instead, if you would have sat down with your child and tried to reason out, there is a possibility of you going to the root of your child’s ill behavior and coming up with the solution so that the same behavior is not repeated in the future. This is something we, at Dayawati Modi Academy, one of the top 10 CBSE schools in Meerut, completely agree with and support thoroughly! We firmly believe in having conversations and coming up with solutions every time a child misbehaves, and this is something we constantly pass on to the parents as well.

So here, in this article today, we are sharing with you some of the ways you can control the urge to overreact on your child’s behavior. Read on.

• Choose Conversations over Commands:

When children misbehave, most parents often end up shouting at the kids or punishing them for their misbehaviour. However, it is important for you to understand that constant yelling and punishing is likely to make your child a rebel, which means even after multiple tries, you will have difficulty reversing your child’s misbehavior.

The best way out is to rely on conversations. Speak to your child and try to find out the reason behind your child’s ill behavior. There is a possibility that your child did not want to misbehave, but circumstances forced him to act otherwise. Once the child realizes that the parent has taken out time to speak to the child and not chosen to take a blind call, the child is more likely to display discipline in the future.

• Highlight the Consequences:

Many a time, it so happens that children choose to misbehave purely for the fun of misbehaving. Moreover, children are unaware of the serious consequences their misbehavior can attract. If you highlight to your children the consequences their actions may attract, they are more likely to grow mindful of their activities.

• Locate the Triggers:

Many a time, we only see the face of the problem. However, once we start looking deeper, the reality shapes up in a very different manner. For instance, you may be advising your child to finish his lunch and bring back home empty tiffin. In spite of that, your child may be avoiding eating lunch, which could be angering you and forcing you to overreact. However, if you choose to go to the root of the problem, you might come to know that your child is being bullied, which is preventing him from eating in peace. If you fail to mark such triggers, your child is likely to feel demotivated, which may ultimately reflect in the form of poor physical and mental health.

• Avoid Being a Dictator:

Children’s misbehavior cannot always be counted as a shortcoming on their part. There is a possibility that you, as a parent, are saying things or acting in a manner that is forcing your child to misbehave. For instance, your child may want to sit by himself and complete his homework. However, as a parent, you may be worried about your child faring poorly in the exams leading to you making decisions and acting on behalf of your child. Some children might see this as undue interference and would eventually decide to misbehave. Thus we, at Dayawati Modi Academy, one of the top 10 CBSE schools in Meerut, would like to advise you to be wary of your own actions and behavior and ensure that you are not unknowingly provoking your kids to misbehave.

Concluding

Children’s misbehavior should be ideally looked beyond the ambit of overreactions, yelling, and punishment. It is quite possible that what you, as a parent, see as misbehavior is not perceived as one by the child. Thus, it is important to make children realize which of their actions account to misbehavior. This will help them improve for good. After all, everyone deserves a fair chance to be heard and be allowed room to mend their actions. Isn’t it!